Your relationship is falling apart and you have to start searching within yourself to find out why, and what you can do to change it.
For a relationship to break down, there are always two people at fault. You cannot blame your partner anymore than you blame yourself. You must have seen changes in your relationship that were warning signs, but like most people you've probably ignored them. How many times have you heard someone talking about their relationship and they've said, "the situation won't get any better until he/she makes significant changes."
Make a list of things you like and dislike about your ex. Then make the same list about yourself, being completely honest. As Dr. Phil says, You cannot change what you dont acknowledge. Have a good look at yourself and be honest about what you may have done to break up the relationship, and also the mistakes your ex has made. Don't forget to think about the good points you both have and try to work on those.
It takes two to tango, so you need to work out what each of you did to contribute to the breakdown and what you need to do to change things. Don't just look at the negatives, but discuss all the good things you shared together. There may be things you've forgotten about each other, which could help rekindle your relationship. It's never too late to try.
Whatever you do don't embarrass yourself by chasing after your ex. You'll end up being worse off as your ex will resent the intrusion. Try using different tactics and try not to bombard your ex with reasons why you should get back together.
Try to act as normally as you can and be respectful of yourself and others, and your ex might soon see what they are missing out on. If you learn to love yourself first then that will show in the way you hold yourself, and others, including your ex, will start noticing you.
When you've both made the decision to get back together, try changing the things that tore you apart, and change your circumstances. You may decide that a change of scenery will help, which will involve moving house. If that's what is needed then do it! Moving away from somewhere which holds bad memories for you, can do wonders to spark up your romance.
Don't go back to the same lifestyle as that is taking a step backwards. Try changing what you used to do together even if it means changing the people you associate with. Make the commitment to each other to solve problems as they arrive rather than letting them fester. Vow to work together in everything you do and you will reap the rewards.
If you really want your ex back, then don't sell yourself short by not trying. At least if you've done everything you could to get back together, you have a better chance than sitting around doing nothing at all.
For a relationship to break down, there are always two people at fault. You cannot blame your partner anymore than you blame yourself. You must have seen changes in your relationship that were warning signs, but like most people you've probably ignored them. How many times have you heard someone talking about their relationship and they've said, "the situation won't get any better until he/she makes significant changes."
Make a list of things you like and dislike about your ex. Then make the same list about yourself, being completely honest. As Dr. Phil says, You cannot change what you dont acknowledge. Have a good look at yourself and be honest about what you may have done to break up the relationship, and also the mistakes your ex has made. Don't forget to think about the good points you both have and try to work on those.
It takes two to tango, so you need to work out what each of you did to contribute to the breakdown and what you need to do to change things. Don't just look at the negatives, but discuss all the good things you shared together. There may be things you've forgotten about each other, which could help rekindle your relationship. It's never too late to try.
Whatever you do don't embarrass yourself by chasing after your ex. You'll end up being worse off as your ex will resent the intrusion. Try using different tactics and try not to bombard your ex with reasons why you should get back together.
Try to act as normally as you can and be respectful of yourself and others, and your ex might soon see what they are missing out on. If you learn to love yourself first then that will show in the way you hold yourself, and others, including your ex, will start noticing you.
When you've both made the decision to get back together, try changing the things that tore you apart, and change your circumstances. You may decide that a change of scenery will help, which will involve moving house. If that's what is needed then do it! Moving away from somewhere which holds bad memories for you, can do wonders to spark up your romance.
Don't go back to the same lifestyle as that is taking a step backwards. Try changing what you used to do together even if it means changing the people you associate with. Make the commitment to each other to solve problems as they arrive rather than letting them fester. Vow to work together in everything you do and you will reap the rewards.
If you really want your ex back, then don't sell yourself short by not trying. At least if you've done everything you could to get back together, you have a better chance than sitting around doing nothing at all.
About the Author:
Matthew Clarke, who has more than twenty five years giving wise relationship counsel, has compiled several of his informative articles on his blog especially if you are attempting to get your ex back. For a limited period you can get a free copy of his newsletter by visiting here.
